Vol. 38, No. 5
THE MAJESTY AND MEANING OF MARRIAGE
My prayer for each of you is that you have a wonderful, happy marriage. May our Dear Lord God Bless your home with sweetness.
One of the most critical issues facing America is the attack on the home and marriage vows. In recent months, the Courts of our land, President and Congress have overruled the majority view of marriage for a small minority, that is, the permission for same sex marriages. God will hold accountable that court, and any authority that permits in society that which God condemns. “Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil.” (Isa 5:20). It would do well for everyone to read the entire fifth chapter of Isaiah. California began to marry couples of the same sex, and some other states followed suite. Some time ago the senate voted against an amendment to the Constitution that would ban same sex marriages. The two Florida senators,(at that time) Bob Graham, and Bill Nelson, as expected, voted against the amendment. Of course, homosexuality is abomination in the sight of Almighty God. (Romans 1:18-32, Lev. 18:22-30, Lev. 20). No one can justify such action. This is a violation of the clear teaching of the Scriptures. (KJB).
In the very beginning, God instituted this wonderful journey through life. Let us take a brief look at the Scriptures and examine the very first institution established by God Himself.
1. THE MAJESTY OF MARRIAGE. I use the word “Majesty” because of it’s meaning; “Authority” or “Dignity” “Quality” or “Character.” This is the very first Divine institution. The Bible says that in the beginning God created man in His own image, and placed man in the Garden of Eden. And God said, “It is not good that man should be alone, I will make a help meet for him.” “And the Lord caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept, and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib which the Lord God had taken made He a woman and brought her unto the man” “She shall be called woman because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.” (Gen 2:18-25). God brought the MAN and WOMAN together and instituted marriage. This is a Majestic picture of Christ and His Church. As Eve was taken from Adam’s side as he slept, so was the Church, The Bride of Christ, born from the wounded side of Christ.
Mrs. Mills and I, God willing, will celebrate our sixty (60) years together on July 31,2014. I thank God for these years. I Love and cherish my wife today, as I did in 1954 when we went to Kingsland, Georgia and were married. I believe the marriage fee at that time was $15.00. That became quite a bargain investment.
Now, this is the way it is supposed to be. My wife and I were married, and we produced Loving, Sweet children and then they in turn, produced sweet little grandchildren who have grown up and have produced sweet little great grandchildren who will, in turn, do the same and so forth . This is the way it is supposed to be. Man marries Woman; they produce offspring, who, in turn, produce offspring, as God instituted. There is no place in all of this for people of the same sex to be married. IT DOES NOT FIT. It does not fit in nature, nor the animal kingdom This is the First, Majestic Divine institution for man.
2. THE MISSION OF MARRIAGE. There is a Mission, a Divine plan and purpose for marriage. Our publication is small and we have not the space to cover this subject as we would like to, but just to list a few..
A. Marriage was instituted in order to continue the human race. “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it..” (Gen 1:28) The continuance of the human race is to be within the bond of marriage only.
B. Marriage was instituted for companionship. “It is not good that man should be alone.” So God made one woman for one man for a lifetime. Two becoming one flesh, one mind, for life.
C. Marriage was instituted to avoid fornication. (See 1Cor 7:1-9). Sexual sins have caused enough hurt, hurt that is beyond all measure. This should never be. Our affections should be on our mate only!
D. The institution of marriage gives us a wonderful illustration of Christ and His Church. Read Ephesians 5:22-33. The Husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the Church, and gave Himself for it. As two become one in marriage, so we, who belong to Christ become one, in Him. We belong to Him, He belongs to us.
3. THE MARRING OF MARRIAGE. Of course, the State, the courts mar the institution of Marriage by their ridiculous rulings. Where will this stop? Or, where will it end? This same-sex marriage ruling will open something that is far worse than some can see. Will polygamy be allowed now? Two wives, or three? Or more? Will incestuous marriages be allowed? Can a man marry his daughter, or a woman marry her son? Where will it stop? Will these mates be eligible for social security, or Medicare, or other Government benefits? Where does this stupidity stop? Let the leadership of this land understand that Marriage, as instituted by God Himself is between a Man (Male) and a Woman (Female) only!
There is a strong movement to allow each state to create it’s own rules for marriage. This too, is ridiculous. There are 50 states. Does that mean we can be married 50 different ways? Can we be married in Florida, and not be married in Georgia?
Besides the attacks against marriage from courts, and legislatures, there are problems from within….
A failure in Spiritual life. Every home should establish a family alter where the Bible is read, and where we seek the mind of God. If you are not a Christian, I would urge you to, right now, get on your knees, and ask Christ to come into your life. He is there, where you are, and He will hear the cry of the repentant heart. “But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on His Name.” (Jn 1:12) “Ask, and ye shall receive.” Let every home be a place of prayer, a place where the Bible is honored, a place where Christ is the unseen Guest. Most homes fail here.
Financial problems. Excessive spending. Keeping up with the Joneses, two cars, credit card debts, etc.
A Marriage built on physical attraction only. This creates many problems. The young man, or young lady you are considering for marriage may not be so handsome, or she might not be so cute, but we are to look deeper than the surface. Lust can turn to hatred quickly. We must look into the heart of the one we are going to marry. Marriage is to be built on love and trust.( Prov 6:20-35)
Improper relationships with In-Laws. We should never criticize our In-Laws, especially to their children. Living too close to our In-Laws may prove to be a hindrance.
A failure in love life. A failure to express love and appreciation. This includes common courtesies, a gentle touch, an unexpected kindness. For the man, remember that she loves and needs affection. For the wife, remember that he needs to be admired. Practice these simple, but necessary things that help make your marriage work.
Divorce mars marriage. Divorce is easy to get in this society. A marriage can end quickly these days. But divorce is never easy. There are too many people involved. Hurts will last a lifetime. You can never get over a divorce. Ask the ones who have taken that route. You can, in time, deal with the death of a loved one, but not so with divorce. This is a word that should never be considered. Today, more than one half of all marriages end in divorce. In the black community, 70 per cent of marriages fail. The same ratio is true in other ethnic groups. By the way, there is no such thing as a “Friendly Divorce.” The Bible gives only one instance where a divorce may be granted; “Fornication” See Mt 5:31-32, Mk 10:1-12. The word “Divorce” has so marred marriage. This is not the answer. There are so many more things that could be discussed, but I must go on to the next point.
Spousal abuse should never, never happen. Loving kindness, tenderness, and a forgiving spirit. These graces should be alive and practiced in every home. Spousal abuse, child abuse should never happen! Victims of such acts should not continue to live in that environment.
4. THE MENDING OF A MARRIAGE
I think of Jeremiah in the potter’s house where a vessel was marred and made all over, (Jer 18:1-6). Broken things can be mended. A broken, a damaged marriage can be mended. When problems arise, and they will, talk it over. Discuss the problem. Do not leave unless you are in an abusive situation. Do not pout. Talk it over! Admit your fault. Say, I’m sorry. Try the words, “Please forgive me” Hold hands, and pray, and let the Great Mender of broken things be your helper, and healer. Don’t leave. Don’t let satanic forces destroy your marriage. Facing things honestly and openly can help mend a marriage. Now, I am not a marriage counselor. I do not believe in one. I have no quarrel with those that do. My marriage has survived 60 years because we stuck together. We had our differences. We had our “spats” and “fusses” but we did not leave. That was never an option. We worked things out, together. One thing that worked for me is that sometime back there in our past, I came to the conclusion that I cannot change her. If there is to be any changing, I must change! I think that we all must become experts in marriage. We spend years in preparing for our future. We educate ourselves in our field, but we spend absolutely no time in learning how to be a husband, or a wife. Read good books. Above all, Read the Bible. Read the great passages that deal with the Husband’s responsibility, the Wife’s responsibility. Memorize Ephesians 5 and 6. 1Peter Ch 3. And the word “Likewise” in 1Peter 3:1 concerning the subjection of the wife to her husband, is also found in v7 of that same text. What the Bible says about the wife says the same thing to the husband. Two subjecting themselves to each other and becoming one.
5. THE MAINTENANCE OF A MARRIAGE Someone has rightly said that the best way to lose is the way of neglect. Neglect maintenance on your home, and the building will fall down. The same is true with everything in life. DO NOT NEGLECT YOUR MARRIAGE
Husbands, be the Spiritual leader in your home. God has ordained it so. Read 1Cor 11:3, 7-9, Eph 5:23,Gen 3:16, Gen 18:19. The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for it. Husbands, remember these words; Tenderness, Politeness, Understanding, Kindness, Honesty. Put these words into practice. Love your wife and let her know it. Be thoughtful, remember those ” special days” anniversary, Valentine’s day, etc. Hold your relationship with your wife very sacred.
Wives, be sure to boost your husband. Do not tear him down. The Bible says that you are a “help meet.” Keep the home atmosphere as pleasant as possible. Be sure that you are together in spending. Keep the expenses within the budget of the home. Learn to have fun together. Eat out together often. We should express “I Love You” Often.
6. THE MAKING OF A MARRIAGE.
There are many plans, books, tapes. Etc available. There are many counselors, all with the idea of Making a Marriage.
It is not uncommon for me to get a call from a couple wanting to get married. “Pastor, do you do pre-marital counseling?” My answer is No. I have found that if two people want to get married, my counseling will not change a thing. My only counsel to a young couple is to read the second chapter of the Gospel of John. Christ began His earthly Ministry by attending a wedding at Cana of Galilee. There may have been other weddings that day, we do not know. This may have been the wedding season of that day, we do not know. But the one thing that made this wedding special was that Christ was the invited guest. If you invite Christ into your wedding, then He can MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE. Invite Him into your home to be the silent listener to every conversation, and the unseen Guest at every meal.
These are just a few things that I have learned down through the years. There is so much more, but my space is limited. As Satan attacked the first home and marriage, and his forces attacked home and marriage before the flood in Genesis 6, so our Lord Jesus said that in the last days, the days of Lot and Noah will be repeated. As I have stated, the Courts, and Legislation have attacked, and will attack this foundation of our society. Satan has, and will attack your marriage. Be strong, and hold together, and seek the help of the One who has been our help in all generations. No, same-sex marriages are NOT permitted or condoned by the Bible, or by any people with moral values. Our courts and Legislatures had better take warning from the Bible and from history. This is a sin listed in Romans 1, where it is said, “God gave them over to a reprobate mind.” That is, a mind that is not capable of determining the awfulness of this sin and it’s results.
God bless our homes. God, help every marriage that needs help today. God, bless America, again!
AND THE WORLD IS A WILDERNESS…It is no friend to the Christian, and it is no friend to your marriage. “Pastor, do you do marriage counseling?” My answer is “No” I do not believe in it. I have no quarrel with those who do. I just say, “Get back in there, fight it out, fuss if you must, get it all out in the open, talk about it, then say I’m sorry, forgive me, Say I love you. Then hold hands and pray. But don’t leave. Stay together. Work it out. You can do it, if you want to.
Now, please understand this…We are not angry at anybody. We are angry at SIN. Sin that will pull people and nations down. I believe that there is enough power in the Gospel of Christ to give anyone victory over any sin. Millions have found that Faith in Christ completely changed their life and direction forever. Do you know Him? If not, ask Him into your life today to be your Lord and Saviour. A simple look to His Work on the Cross and His Glorious victory over the grave. The power that raised Him from the grave is available for every life today, (Phil. 3:10). “For whosoever shall call upon the Name of the Lord shall be saved.” Saved from the penalty and power of sin.
THINK ABOUT IT…My wife and I were married 60 years ago. That was a more simple time. While we have had to face storms in our marriage, those who are beginning their lives together today will face storms we never dreamed of. Never has there been a time in history when prayer for our homes is more important. “Pray one for another.”
THINK ABOUT IT…Marriage is the most important relationship in life other than a saving knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. It is also the CLOSEST and LONGEST relationship. It is meant to be the HAPPIEST relationship in life.
FROM MY HEART
By Mildred Mills
A THANKFUL MOTHER
I am a thankful and proud Mother of one daughter and three sons, the sweetest, kindest and most loving children ever! My daughter is a beautiful little lady and my three sons are strong, big and handsome and they love their Mama and their Mama loves them! They have brought me much, much joy, laughter and happiness down through the years of my life and I love them, yes I do! All four of my children have grown up, married, and have grown children and
two of them have grand children. They are all grown now but through their Mother’s eyes and heart they are still my babies. It doesn’t matter to me that my three handsome sons are well over 200 pounds and muscle bound, they are still my little ones. It does not matter to Mama that her precious little daughter has grand children, she is still my baby girl, and when I say little daughter, I mean it. She is 5′ 3” and might weigh 100 pounds soaking wet! Three tall, big and strong, muscle bound sons and one little tiny daughter and to think that God chose me to love them, care for them and to protect them and to Mother them!To be their Mother is such an honor and I thank God for each of them. Yes, I’m a proud, thankful Mother! I am thankful that I have seen each of them ask Jesus into their hearts. I am thankful to know that they are saved and love the Lord. I have kept every Mother’s Day card from them down through the years. I took them out today and read them all and of course the words that I read brought tears of joy and thankfulness. Mothers, love your children and hold them close to you. Tell them you love them and take good care of them, they are gifts from God. Hey Susan, David, Steve and Danny, thank you for making Mama proud! I especially thank you for making every day Mother’s Day for me. Love, Mama.
“Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord.” (Ps. 127:3)
TEEN TALKS THAT MATTER
By Ashley Stevens
One of the consequences we face in a today’s world of social media is that we find ourselves more isolated than ever. One online article warns, “Those who live their lives primarily or exclusively online claim that virtual friends are not adequate substitutes for real-world friends, and…individuals who substitute virtual friends for physical friends become even lonelier and more depressive than before. It’s easy in our teenage years to live our lives online and compare our lives to others. We all have periods of time that we battle with loneliness and sadness and feel overwhelmed with our situations. But those of us who have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ have an assurance that He can bring comfort to us no matter what we are going through. In one of the more known Scriptures, Psalm 23, David wrote, “Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil; for thou art with me, thy rod and thy staff they COMFORT me.” What a blessing to know that we can rest in the comfort of our Heavenly Father. It is also easier to be a “virtual friend” than a “physical friend.” It’s easier to say nice things and promise to do things online and then fail to do so. We as followers of Christ should set the example and be a true friend to others. The next time you see on social media that a friend is down, don’t just type something, call them or visit them. That personal touch will make a difference. We share Christ’s Love when we take time to minister to others. Many people have come to know Christ because someone took time to care and show them God’s Love and not just talk about it. We may be the only Jesus others see. So whether it be a friend your age, a grandparent, neighbor or stranger, take the time and show God’s Love. “As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another as good stewards of the manifold Grace of God.” (1Peter 1:10).
May God Bless your life each and every day,
Until next time, Ashley Stevens.
“I WAS IN PRISON AND YE CAME UNTO ME.” (Mt. 25:36)
By Pastor George Mills
While we cannot literally go into the prisons, we do go into many prisons every month. This Publication is sent, in bulk to many prisons monthly. We have regular readers there, and some contact us frequently. We are very happy to open a letter and find one of our tracts enclosed with the back page filled in indicating that the writer has received Christ. We receive letters from inmates with questions, and some questions are hard to answer, but we try. May I share a few thoughts for those of you who are in some prison or jail somewhere. What I say to each inmate, I say the same to everyone…
If you have, by Faith alone, asked Christ to come into your heart, if you believe that He died on the Cross for your sin, that He was buried, and that He arose from the dead on the third day, if you believe that, I can say on the authority of God’s Word that He saved you when you trusted Him. “But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on His Name.” Forever let that settle in your heart. God has forgiven you! Whatever was in your past has been forgiven. Praise God!
While sin, all sin is forgiven, we must reap the results of a sinful life. If a man drinks alcohol all of his life, and develops liver cancer from all that alcohol, if he trusts Christ, that does not guarantee that he gets a new liver. Or if a man loses his leg in an accident while driving drunk, His sin is forgiven because he trusts Christ, but that does not get him a new leg. So to those in prison, God saved you when you asked Him to. You have a home in Heaven. Your record up there is clean.
While you are there, be the example of a man or woman who has met Christ. Here are some things you can do for yourself.
Learn to read your Bible. As you read your Bible, (KJB) your faith will grow. You will learn about God, about human nature, about yourself.
Develop a prayer list. Pray for yourself, pray for your family, pray for the inmates there. Pray for this Ministry. God still answers prayer.
Be a good witness for Christ. Pass out Gospel Tracts. You can be a soul winner there.
Use your time wisely. Don’t waste it. Enroll in a Bible correspondence Course. Educate yourself, train yourself. If you need to finish High School, go for your G.E.D.
Learn to forgive yourself. God has forgiven you in Christ. Many a person has left a prison cell to do great things for Christ.
May God richly Bless you. Let us hear what God is doing in your life. Remember, we serve a Loving, Kind, Heavenly Father.
THE KING JAMES BIBLE
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